Tag: queer romance

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
– Maya Angelou.

It was late, after movies and Nintendo, with our stomachs full of pizza. My friend René and I lay on my bed, both of us in oversized boxer shorts, our skinny bodies pressed together in the dark.
My heart pounded, blood rushing everywhere, as if my body already understood something my mind had not yet fully grasped.
We had ended up like this after about twenty minutes of silent readjustments, little movements disguised as casual shifts but really meant to bring us closer. I could feel the faint acne on his chest, the wiry hairs scattered there. My own chest was bare, as it still is. Tentatively, I held his chest, and he placed his hand over mine, holding it there. His cold toes slid over my feet and, for the first time in my life, I knew what it felt like to give comfort to another man.
We were fourteen.

Even now I can see it vividly, almost like I am watching from above, two boys sharing something tender and unspoken in the safety of the dark.
René was, by all accounts, a bad boy. He smoked cigarettes, swore, and got in trouble at school.
He had posters of women in bikinis on his bedroom walls. He played hockey and was good at it, fast and aggressive, with a reputation for being a bit of a troublemaker on the ice. His parents spoke French, and when I joined them for dinners, his father’s eyes would flicker between us, full of suspicion. Even though René and I came from different worlds, it felt like René did not notice the differences, or maybe he just didn’t care.
“You’re not like other guys, Greg,” he said once as we played video games in my parents’ basement. He did not look away from the screen as he said it, his voice low and matter-of-fact. “I can talk to you about stuff.”
He did not elaborate on the stuff, but I understood what he meant. You let me be me. And I did.
With me, René was silly and unguarded. He danced to girly music in my room and did impressions of MADtv characters. The mask he wore around the hockey team or at school would slip away, leaving someone softer, someone freer. We roughhoused and he would try to stick his cheese puff-covered fingers in my mouth. His teasing never felt cruel. It felt like affection.
I watched him constantly, my feelings for him growing in ways I did not yet have the words to name. His scruffy, matted hair. The strong jawline that hinted at the man he was becoming. His bedroom eyes, the raspy voice of adolescence. I memorized the way he walked around my room shirtless, playing air guitar. The way he spoke politely to my mom when she brought us snacks.
The way he shrugged in his oversized Montréal Canadiens jacket with his baggy jeans, their frayed and wet hems dragging through the winter slush.

I followed him everywhere. Across the street to the hockey rink, to his games, even on overnight tournaments. I tagged along with his girlfriend Tara and her friends, who giggled and cheered from the bleachers. While the girls bought corn dogs and danced to the Macarena during intermissions, I watched René skate. He was strong, fast, and undeniably beautiful to me.
But the hockey rink was not always kind. One evening, as we watched the game, a man in a trucker hat muttered a slur loud enough for me to hear. My friend Kelly snapped at him to shut up, but he did not even flinch. His words hung in the air, thick and vile, sinking into my chest. I never told René what happened, even though I wanted to, it seemed like something I had to
carry alone, something I’d learn to do for a long time in my life.
René always insisted I come to his out-of-town games. His parents, strict and traditional, made Tara sleep in their hotel room while René and I shared a room and a bed. At night, after everyone else had gone to sleep, we stayed up watching TV and eating junk food, our legs tangled together under the blankets.
One night, exhausted from the day, he fell asleep on my shoulder. His sweet gummy worm breath mingled with the scent of his sweat and deodorant. I did not move, afraid to wake him, so I sat there perfectly still, tracing the hair on his arms with my fingertips.
I did not know what I was feeling. I only knew that I wanted to protect him, to take care of him, to offer him something I did not yet understand.
Then everything started to change.
He started pulling away. At the rink he brushed past me without a word, hand in hand with Tara.
He made excuses not to hang out, saying he had plans with his teammates or needed to be alone.
Each rejection was a blow and I did not understand what I had done wrong.
Eventually he reached out and the last night we spent together, just the two of us, felt different.
He seemed restless, burdened, his usual warmth muted by something I could not name. When we finally went to bed, we lay in the dark inching closer in our familiar way. And I gathered the
courage to hold him, I could feel his sadness, heavy and unspoken. He sniffled once and I wondered if he was crying.
I touched him gently, tracing the hollow of his chest with my thumb, my nose buried in his hair, breathing him in, trying to hold the moment still.
I did not have language for what I was feeling yet, but I knew it was important.
For most of my childhood, beauty had meant something simple. Nice clothes, nice faces, things people pointed at and admired. But lying there beside him, I understood something new. Beauty was not what I saw when I looked at him. Beauty was what I felt when I noticed him.
It was the way he could be tough in the world and soft in private.
The way he trusted me enough to let the performance drop.
The way closeness could exist without explanation.

I realized I loved him, and I also understood he could never love me in the same way. And strangely, that was somehow beautiful, even though it hurt.
For the first time I saw the inner life of another boy, and it was complicated and tender and a little sad. I began to notice it in other men, too, as I grew older. The gentleness they hid, the expectations placed on them, the weight many of them carried, whether anyone spoke about it or not.
That was when beauty changed for me.
It was no longer appearance.
It was recognition.

We grew apart after that. He quit hockey and got into trouble, fights, arrests, gangs. The last I heard he was in prison, and despite my searching over the years, I cannot find him anywhere.
I still think about him sometimes. With a little melancholy.
Not because I am still in love with him, but because that was the moment I first understood what beauty actually was. It was not perfection, and it was not desire.
It was the feeling of seeing another person clearly and caring about what you saw.
That night did not just give me my first love.
It gave me the beginning of how I would see men for the rest of my life. Tender, full of contradictions, multitudes as Whitman would say.
And even now, when I notice tenderness where the world expects hardness, or gentleness where someone has been taught to hide it, I recognize it immediately.
Because I have seen it before.
I saw it first in a fourteen-year-old boy lying beside me in the dark, pretending to be asleep.